THUG LOVE GONE WRONG?

It was difficult for me to blog about the Hudson tragedy, because of the brutal nature in which these lives were taken and also now to know that her 7 year old nephew met the same fate. Without having all the facts and this medium not being a respected news outlet, please take the following comments as just opinions.

Being a single female, I will be the first to admit that I don't always pick the "right" guy. My past dating record is littered with a few "what was I thinking?" examples. We've all had our encounters with that mystical character known as the "bad boy". He's elusive, but we read that as he's complicated and sensitive. The dude, in your younger days (and some current), that may have not always had his sh*t together.. whether it was emotionally or financially, but you liked his game, swagger, he had a little pull. So you entertained his bullsh*t for a specified amount of time until that aspect was no longer attractive. Of course, once sex enters the picture, lets just say the situation can become cloudy. So while you're in the haze of excitement and good sex, your judgement may not always be clear. Is this what happened to Julia Hudson? Yes, her current situation is the worst result or consequence of making the wrong decision about who you decide to love... but were there signs.. yellow flags.. a flashing red light that she chose to ignore? Now, what I may consider to be deal breakers like.. an attempted murder charge.. may be considered water under the bridge by others. I'm by far not the only person that is thinking it, but I know Julia's heart is riddled with guilt over that fateful choice she made to bring this person into her life. It may have cost her family. In no way I am placing the full blame on her, but certain actions have consequences. Especially with an innocent child in the picture, they look to the parent to provide a safe environment. My heart sinks to think that little Julian King's life had to end over something he had nothing to do with.
Not having children, my view may be a little skewed.. but I listened as the mother of William Balfour defended him to the high heavens and proclaimed his innocense... even though he's had a violent past and a lengthy criminal record. We've all seen it before. I have relatives that defend their young sons to no end. Nothing is ever their fault, and they learn to take no accountability for their actions. I had a first cousin who was on the run from the police for a shooting, but his mother was ready to ship him off to Canada to save him from being prosecuted. She was an enabler. So he never learned the fundamentals of right and wrong. Those lessons that are never learned always manifest into someone else's tragedy. Just a thought..